LilyHighOnLife #2
Change Your Attitude, Change Your LIfe
Being High On Life means feeling good in each moment. No drugs, no alcohol, just a feeling of well-being with a genuine smile.
When given a choice, everyone would rather feel good, so I make it a priority. I am used to finding the positive or feel-good side to most things as I go through my day. The point of this weekly offering is to share with you my thinking and see if some of it might also work for you.
When you take responsibility for everything that happens in your own life, you can choose to change it rather than live on automatic pilot.
You can get rid of the anger, you can get rid of the disappointment, you can improve every single relationship you have in your life.
One of my biggest challenges, and it still happens today, is that someone will say something to me, either on purpose or accidently, that will suddenly and unexpectedly change the way I feel. To me it’s like a slap in the face, even if it is just a small thing about what happened in the past, or how they interpret what I might have said or done, or they might just be mean and doing it on purpose. It does not happen that often anymore, because I don’t find myself around negative or hurtful people, but there are people who know how to push my buttons.
It is such an unusual event now; I immediately recognize it. I understand that any comment anyone makes it more about them then it is about me. It is the way they see the world. It is about their perception and beliefs about life, not about me. The reason it used to throw me off kilter is because a small part of me thought they might be right. In thinking it through, the more I wanted to be liked or accepted by them, the more upsetting it was. Now I understand that it is none of my business what anyone else thinks about me. They are allowed to have their own views and opinions. If my goal is to feel good, I do not need to make their views my own.
Anyone that hurts me like that is either unaware or not a friend. Friends do not make friends feel bad.
I choose to recognize they are coming from a very different mindset, one that I can choose not to be around. I can acknowledge their remark was uncomfortable and even why, but I don’t get upset about it or even angry with them. They just have a different attitude and I make a different choice. I understand they are going through their own life challenges, and this is their way of coping or making sense of their own lives. It only affects me when I allow it to.
We all want to be loved and respected, just because we are human. As you go about your day, smile more, be a little kinder to everyone and spread the love.
I’m Lily and I want to live in a world where people smile more, are kind to others and come from love. Let me know how you are enjoying your life.
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